Well, I guess my marriage is in real trouble then because I give my husband kisses on the cheek all the time. And the idea that a peck on the cheek is something that only a mother would give a child is one of the most narrow definitions of love that I've ever heard.
You're treating AFFECTION as if it means the same thing as SEX. It doesn't.
Do you think that engaged and married couples are constantly sticking their tongues down each other's throats?
The truth is that sex is one piece of a healthy, lasting marriage. And it's a wonderful piece. And yes, it's an essential piece. But it's not the basis for lasting marriages. Sex is the icing on the cake. It's something amazing and awesome that you get to share with your partner as a physical manifestation of your feelings for each other. But it's the icing on the cake. It's not the cake itself.
I find the idea that there is a lack of "affection" between these two characters because they shared a kiss on the cheek to be incredibly ludicrous. The entire scene in the Daily Planet was a validation of how much Clark and Lois respected each other and loved each other. Clark was willing to let go of his pride and tone down his "hometown hero" routine so that he could be the hero the world needed---and he didn't want to put a mask over the face of the man that his parents raised OR over the face of the man that Lois loved. He wanted to be that man that she loved when he was out there saving people. And after promising to stand by him no matter what....Lois was supportive of that choice.
Look, I would LOVE to see some more sexuality on the show. The writers have chosen not to show that side of Lois and Clark's relationship since Ambush. And yes, I would like to see more of it. But at the same time, the fact that the show has not been focusing on it doesn't mean that there is no affection between them. Relationships are about more than just sex. These two characters are not immature 16 years olds. They are ADULTS who are planning to share a life together. And defining love and affection by how many times characters make out or have sex is, imo, missing what it really means to love someone and to build a life with someone. Sex is the icing. It's not the batter.
----- Added 6 Minutes later -----
I don't see what's eyeroll worthy about a woman caring enough about her fiance who had just been released from potentially painful imprisonment if he needs to eat something because he looks weak.
I also don't see why only mothers are allowed to care this way. If my husband walked in after being missing for weeks and looked the way Clark had....I would have asked him if he needed to eat something too. Because it's a way of being considerate to someone that you love.
Do you honestly believe that it's eyeroll worthy for wives to ask their husbands if they want something to eat when they look weak? That that is only behavior reserved for mothers?
Let me tell you something...if a close friend or my sister or brother walked in my house looking weak...I would offer them something to eat too. I would do it for anyone that I loved. There is nothing eyeroll worthy about looking after the needs of someone that you love.
What I love about Lois is that she's determined to try new things even if she fails at them. It's clear that cooking does not come naturally to her. She's not an expert chef like Lana was. It's not a natural talent. But Lois is the kind of person who will try to get something right and she'll keep trying until she succeeds. And truthfully, she'll probably never be a great cook. We learned in "Beacon" that she was "getting better" but it seemed to be a very frazzling and stressful activity for her. But I respect any person fictional or real who tries to tackle something that they find scary and tries to learn a new skill.
You're treating AFFECTION as if it means the same thing as SEX. It doesn't.
Do you think that engaged and married couples are constantly sticking their tongues down each other's throats?
The truth is that sex is one piece of a healthy, lasting marriage. And it's a wonderful piece. And yes, it's an essential piece. But it's not the basis for lasting marriages. Sex is the icing on the cake. It's something amazing and awesome that you get to share with your partner as a physical manifestation of your feelings for each other. But it's the icing on the cake. It's not the cake itself.
I find the idea that there is a lack of "affection" between these two characters because they shared a kiss on the cheek to be incredibly ludicrous. The entire scene in the Daily Planet was a validation of how much Clark and Lois respected each other and loved each other. Clark was willing to let go of his pride and tone down his "hometown hero" routine so that he could be the hero the world needed---and he didn't want to put a mask over the face of the man that his parents raised OR over the face of the man that Lois loved. He wanted to be that man that she loved when he was out there saving people. And after promising to stand by him no matter what....Lois was supportive of that choice.
Look, I would LOVE to see some more sexuality on the show. The writers have chosen not to show that side of Lois and Clark's relationship since Ambush. And yes, I would like to see more of it. But at the same time, the fact that the show has not been focusing on it doesn't mean that there is no affection between them. Relationships are about more than just sex. These two characters are not immature 16 years olds. They are ADULTS who are planning to share a life together. And defining love and affection by how many times characters make out or have sex is, imo, missing what it really means to love someone and to build a life with someone. Sex is the icing. It's not the batter.
----- Added 6 Minutes later -----
I too don't really like the fact that Lois been acting all motherly. She was much worse in Collateral. Asking Clark if he wanted a sandwich
I also don't see why only mothers are allowed to care this way. If my husband walked in after being missing for weeks and looked the way Clark had....I would have asked him if he needed to eat something too. Because it's a way of being considerate to someone that you love.
Do you honestly believe that it's eyeroll worthy for wives to ask their husbands if they want something to eat when they look weak? That that is only behavior reserved for mothers?
Let me tell you something...if a close friend or my sister or brother walked in my house looking weak...I would offer them something to eat too. I would do it for anyone that I loved. There is nothing eyeroll worthy about looking after the needs of someone that you love.
I wish that Lois never learned how to cook. I loved that about her
Comment