please explain to me how this was the easy road for clark?!?!

[donellacandra]

i know this thread is a tad redundant, but i would really like someone to explain to me in a reasonable manner how what clark did as far as the breakup was the easy route? i am about a year out of a 10 year relationship that dragged on about 7 years more than it should have b/c both of us loved (and still do love) each other dearly and had hope it would work out and it didn't/couldn't. now i wish i had some of those years back. in my opinion it is sooo much better for clark to have ended it now than to keep trying something that was only hurting lana every day and was probably never going to be any better (b/c he was never going to tell his secret). she had made it more than clear by staying as long as she did that she would put up with whatever he threw at her... all of her threats were empty, she never backed them up. he had no choice but to tell her something harsh and cold even if untrue so that she would let go. he had to make her not want to be with him any more. i do not think it was easy at all for him to hurt the one he really did love.

so, please, someone explain to me if you had this person that you cared about that you knew you were hurting that obviously wasn't going to take no for an answer or stand up for themselves. what would you have done differently?

[SmallvilleMan]

What I would have done? Told her the truth. That it could never work, but that he did love her and that he was protecting her. She wouldn't have liked those words either, but it would be the truth and it wouldn't lead her down the road she's going. I would have made her understand how I feel, so she could know she wasn't going through it alone and so on. What he did, was drive her away and make her angry. What he was the worse thing he could have done.

[hassenmorad]

Originally posted by SmallvilleMan
What I would have done? Told her the truth. That it could never work, but that he did love her and that he was protecting her. She wouldn't have liked those words either, but it would be the truth and it wouldn't lead her down the road she's going. I would have made her understand how I feel, so she could know she wasn't going through it alone and so on. What he did, was drive her away and make her angry. What he was the worse thing he could have done.

Exactly. What the heck was he thinking. He justified his decision later by saying: "it was either break it up forever or tell her my secret." (or something along those lines) I don't think that ultimatum was true at all. The writers probably wrote the script this way so that Lana could fill a role of spite against Clark.

[donellacandra]

Originally posted by SmallvilleMan
What I would have done? Told her the truth. That it could never work, but that he did love her and that he was protecting her. She wouldn't have liked those words either, but it would be the truth and it wouldn't lead her down the road she's going. I would have made her understand how I feel, so she could know she wasn't going through it alone and so on. What he did, was drive her away and make her angry. What he was the worse thing he could have done.

I see where you are coming from and I think that is the better way to do it in real life. I just feel like the way they wrote her on the show she wouldn't have accepted it. I think based on the character, she needed to get mad to get over it. Ever time he tried to be nice to her she tried to date him again. Ultimately, I think he should have just told her the secret. I am basing my opinions on how the characters were written so maybe that's where the problem really is. ^_^ I have to admit that I am also basing it a little on my experience. I was never really able to get over the guy until it was vividly clear that there was no chance. it hurt and I was angry and bitter, but it was the only way I was able to move on... maybe I am just identifying waaaay too much with a tv show!

[Firebunny]

Originally posted by donellacandra
I just feel like the way they wrote her on the show she wouldn't have accepted it. I think based on the character, she needed to get mad to get over it. Ever time he tried to be nice to her she tried to date him again.

I think you're right. She wouldn't let Jason break up with her when he tried. And she fought it tonight, until Clark said something to hurt her.

And back at the beginning of season 3 when Clark said he couldn't be with her she spent half of the season saying she would wait for him. He had to be cruel in order to truly end it.

[UpandAtom]

Originally posted by hassenmorad
Exactly. What the heck was he thinking. He justified his decision later by saying: "it was either break it up forever or tell her my secret." (or something along those lines) I don't think that ultimatum was true at all. The writers probably wrote the script this way so that Lana could fill a role of spite against Clark.

I think those were the only choices. As long as he didn't tell her his secret, Lana would keep hassling him about sex.

[puddinpiester]

It will not be an easier road for Clark. I actually think he has the rougher days, maybe years, ahead.